“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit”
― E.E. Cummings
Self-confidence means being in-sync with your capabilities, powers and self-worth regardless of the situation that you are in. It means that you acknowledge your strengths and believe in yourself to achieve your purpose and go for the challenges that the life throws at you, gallantly. It is the “mantra” of certainty and self-belief that makes you stand out of the crowd – self-assured, self-aware and upbeat. Undoubtedly, self-confidence is your “golden-ticket” to the worldly benefits and spiritual boons!
Fact – People with low self-confidence tend to repel people around them. Their limiting mindsets and behavior makes them unbearable and a “drag” to be around. As per studies – Low self-esteem is a thinking disorder in which an individual views him/herself as inadequate, unlovable, and/or incompetent. Once formed, this negative view permeates every thought, producing faulty assumptions and ongoing self-defeating behavior. It’s a vicious cycle of negativity, low self-esteem and failure that goes on for ever and ever!
The good news is that self-confidence is something you can improve! If you’re feeling less-than-celestial, these simple, actionable tips are for you (for that much-needed confidence boost) –
1 Positive Self Talk – makes you feel good about yourself and the things that are going on in your life. It’s like having an optimistic voice in your head that always looks on the bright side. Remember, if you keep telling yourself you’re not good, regularly – you might just start believing it, even though it’s not true – augmenting your disappointment in yourself. Try countering your negative thoughts with positive ones. Believe in yourself! By working on replacing negative self-talk with more positive self-talk, you’re more likely to feel in control of stuff that’s going on in your life and to achieve your goals.
2 Don’t Compare Yourself With Others – One of the easiest ways to feel bad about oneself is to compare yourself critically to others. We may be tempted to compare ourselves with those who have more accomplishments, seem more attractive, make more money, or boast more (aka Facebook friends!) Comparison is scarring! It eats away your ability to be content and confident about yourself. Be happy with what you have and concentrate on magnifying your happiness by appreciating the little joys of life. Remember, everyone is great at something. Concentrate on YOUR strengths!
3 Work That Body – literally! Sometimes all it takes is a good, lengthening stretch to feel like your happiest self. Stretching your muscles can lead to good posture, better blood flow and ultimately more confidence! A walk in the park, a nice work-out session at the gym, a cycling trip to the near-by trail – whatever works to ease your consciousness!
4 Don’t Strive For Perfection – Perfection is not realistic! Remember, working on your self-confidence is not about striving for perfection, it’s about a journey of self-development.
5 Don’t Beat Yourself When You Make A Mistake – Be gentle with yourself! Instead of crying about what is missing, use each opportunity, good or bad, to grow. Remember, everyone has ups and downs! Resolve to recover from your mistakes and get back on track.
6 Focus On Things That You Can Change – When you find yourself worrying, take a minute to examine the things you have control over. Recognize that – sometimes, all you can control is your effort and your attitude! When you put your energy into the things you can control, you’ll be much more effective and dynamic.
7 Do Things That You Enjoy – If you do things you enjoy, you’re more likely to think positively which directly progresses your confidence levels. Taking time out of your regular day-to-day work and finding new ways to enjoy life is essential to our happiness and well-being.
8 Celebrate The Small Stuff – Celebrate little victories! You need to celebrate the small things because you need to stop being your own worst critic and start being your biggest fan. The mind is a powerful thing and with yourself on your side, you can outsmart that little devil on your shoulder whispering doubt in your ear.
9 Be Helpful And Considerate – Being of help to someone is a great way to boost their mood, but you might also find that you feel better about yourself after you do something particularly excellent for someone else.
10 Choose Your Tribe Wisely – Your are what your tribe is! Don’t hang around with people who bring you down. Find people who make you feel good about yourself and avoid those who tend to trigger your negative reasoning. Yes, we can’t escape life’s hardships, but we can surely choose to surround ourselves with people who are grateful, positive, kind and honest even in the midst of life’s struggles.
Smiling often, volunteering for a cause, grooming yourself for that dapper look, clearing your clutter, standing tall, listening to music before you step off the door every morning, giving out compliments and appreciating people around you – are a few other ways to work up that confidence! Self-confidence is a thought process where you condition your mind to believe that nothing is impossible. It is a way of life which aims at not being the best but rather being brave and convinced enough to strive for fulfillment and sublimity. It is about believing in your own self and remembering that you are capable and worthy – just as much as anyone else, regardless of what you’ve achieved, regardless of what mistakes you’ve made!
Thank you for stopping by! Have yourself a “CONFIDENT” day y’all!